“Beauty is being comfortable in your own skin”
I remember my first time playing around with makeup. I got caught up in the idea that beauty is that girl on the cover of the magazine with the perfect contoured cheekbones and perfect brows and perfect full lips. Note that I am using the word perfect. Who said that, that is perfect? This is where the problem begins, it is no longer about what you love but rather the fact that you need makeup to be “perfect” or complete.
I tried to make myself look like those “perfect” girls and that forced me to wear makeup almost everyday, I even wore makeup to school, not a full face of makeup but concealer and mascara. It got so severe that i did not want to leave the house without wearing makeup, yet I still didn’t feel “perfect”.
Around boys it was even worse, I remember so clearly one occasion where I applied makeup in the car after school before my mom dropped me off at a “guy friend”, not only was I applying the makeup because I didn’t want him to see me without it, but also because he told me to look “nice”. Whatever that was supposed to mean? This is where I realised I am no longer doing this for myself but for someone else, I had allowed myself to be made into a subject looking for approval from someone who clearly does not deserve me at my best. I now find myself laughing at myself when I look like a hot mess, and at the idea that if a guy can’t love me at my worst he most definitely does not deserve me in a wedding dress and looking my best.
I reached a stage in my life where I realised who I was, and I found my identity in Christ. I finally found the definition of perfect.
Psalm 139:14 ” I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
“Therefore you are to be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.
I know who I am with or without makeup, I am perfect because of Him. You guys this does not mean i hate makeup, oh wow no, I love it and I am not going to stop wearing it, nope, I just came to point in my life where I felt comfortable and happy without makeup. I am not ashamed to be seen without makeup. I no longer wear makeup for others and most definitely not for silly boys and their lack of appreciation for a woman and her true underlying beauty. I don’t change when I am wearing makeup and I certainly do not change when I am not.
“The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows, and the beauty of a woman, with passing years, only grows!” – Audrey Hepburn
Right now when I meet new people or especially a boy, I decided to go make up-less straight away. Allowing me to introduce the real me, my true beauty, and nothing makes me happier to be told to take your makeup off when you decide to wear it, not because of the standard struggle all us girls know, where when you are wearing makeup and you affectionately hug your ‘guy’ friend and your entire face just casually rubs off onto his once was clean, white shirt. So no, it is not because of that but rather because he knows what perfect is, and that you don’t need makeup to fill the definition of that word.
Girls thats when you know. anyway.
You don’t have to cut makeup out of your life completely but understand that makeup is an addition to your beauty, and it is not something that you need to be “perfect” because that is something you already are.
So i encourage you to step out and be confident, and share that confidence with your friends and family and daughters, like Emma Stone says, ” i can’t think of any better representation of beauty than someone who is unafraid to be herself”
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